Single men assume women are only drawn to tall, dark and handsome dates – but according to one group of single ladies, attraction is actually about much more than good looks.
Dating coach Louanne Ward, from Perth, called on single women to reveal the traits that they find most attractive in a potential partner in a thread posted on her Facebook page, She Said He Said – with the majority of ladies insisting that looks play just a small part in a man’s allure.
‘Ladies, could men be right in thinking getting a date is harder if they aren’t measuring up in the looks and height department?’ she asked.
‘If a man isn’t tall, dark and handsome, what good is being funny, honesty, and chivalrous if you can’t get on a date?’
Interestingly, most of the women who answered insisted that appearance isn’t the most attractive trait – but rather find old-fashioned chivalry, followed by personality, a sense of humour, and honesty.
Single men assume women are only drawn to tall, dark and handsome dates – but according to these Australians, it’s much more than good looks (stock image)
Others pointed out the three C’s – compatibility, connection and chemistry.
What makes a man attractive?
– Good personality
– Sense of humour
– Have respect and values
‘Connection is number one, if you don’t have that then it’s a big no… followed by personality, chemistry and them wanting the same things as you,’ one wrote.
‘What makes a man attractive? Old-school values and respect,’ another said, while one added: ‘I want someone who’s honest, chivalrous, keeps me interested (mind wise) and makes me smile and laugh often.’
Many singles said they were most attracted to personality, and how their potential partner treated others, especially their family and friends.
‘It shows how genuine they are,’ one said.
Another woman explained: ‘For me at the end of the day, if he is engaged with his life, his family and social circle etc, treats me with kindness, care and we laugh and have fun together, a little bit of chemistry naturally it’s on.’
While one added: ‘When they show much interest in you by asking you about you, not just talking about themselves.’
However, not everyone agreed with the discussion, with one woman saying: ‘Physical attraction does matter in the dating game.’
Dating coach Louanne Ward (pictured) has prompted a discussion in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, asking women to list the traits they find most attractive in a potential partner
‘Anyone who says it doesn’t, isn’t being completely honest. What’s important to remember is that we all have different tastes and types,’ she said.
‘I agree that physical attraction isn’t everything, and there are other very important qualities to consider.
‘Men might be worried about women only wanting tall, dark and handsome dates, but similarly, women worry that men only want petite girls with big boobs who are 10 years younger.
‘It all comes down to accepting who you are and owning it. If you are confident and happy in yourself, you will attract the right person for you.’
Another woman agreed with her, saying an attractive chemistry between two people was important – and determined whether or not the relationship could advance or even go further.
Louanne also agreed, explaining how physical attraction was ‘subjective and personal’ for everyone.
‘The thing with attraction is when we meet in the wild organically we tend to focus on the things we are attracted to before we go on a date,’ she said.
‘In modern dating when we meet people we don’t know, we focus on what we don’t like first.
‘The negatives become the focus and we don’t see enough of the positives until we scratch the surface it’s only then you can really start uncovering the important things.’